Sexual experimentation often involves the possibility of swapping partners. However, raising such a conversation is not always appropriate; you can not only receive a harsh rejection but also permanently ruin your relationship.
It’s worth learning tips on how to bring up soft swapping.
Preparation Tips
This type of topic is highly sensitive and controversial; the very thought and conversation can seriously damage trust between people. This is what most often stops desire, leading to dissatisfaction and subsequent discord in the relationship.
In such situations, it’s necessary to first independently address a number of questions:
- How important is the need to change partners, and what can be resolved through it. This could be simple boredom, curiosity, or a deeper feeling.
- Consider possible scenarios, from flirting at a party to a longer-term relationship.
- How you might respond to rejection, and what effect it will have.
It’s important to understand that rejection is quite possible, but this doesn’t mean the person won’t change their mind later.
It’s important to define a line that cannot be crossed. This can be simple flirting, verbal and light. You can also limit yourself to tactful touching. That is, you need to set boundaries.
Next, choose the most appropriate moment for the conversation. This shouldn’t be done after sex, as the reaction will likely be extremely negative. It also shouldn’t be done in the company of others, as they might be interrupted at the most crucial moment. This should be done in a private place, when both people are psychologically relaxed and able to understand each other.
How to Conduct a Conversation
A conversation should be prepared; you shouldn’t immediately rush into a proposal or force the other person to make a categorical choice. Therefore, it’s worth following these steps:
- Start with something positive and emphasize the joy of communication and the pleasure of mutual understanding.
- Use statements from your perspective, personalizing your thoughts and suggestions.
- To relieve tension, conduct the conversation in the style of a hypothetical proposal.
- It’s important to consider the possibility of refusal and make it safe for the future of the relationship.
It’s important to listen carefully to your interlocutor and answer questions honestly. It’s important to discuss the boundaries of the conversation itself and subsequent actions, often replacing direct phrases with veiled expressions to avoid creating awkwardness.
If your partner agrees, it’s recommended to plan all future actions together, discussing even the smallest details.